In taking my own good advice on self-care, I'm going
away for a little mini vacation! But, not to worry, I've
invited a couple of great writers to fill in while I'm gone.
In the next two weeks you will be introduced to a fresh
mind and a new angle, but with the same high caliber
information your accustomed to. This week let me
introduce you to Kathy Gates, a successful Life Coach
and writer. Enjoy!
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STAY IN YOUR SEAT!
STAY IN YOUR SEAT!
At a baseball game recently, I saw a 10 year old boy
with his glove, staring intently at batter after batter,
waiting on the foul ball that he just knew would be
coming his way. He wasn't distracted by the noise
around him, or the people stepping over him to get
concessions. He wasn't tempted by the gift shop, or
the kids club house. I'm sure it wasn't that he didn't
find those things interesting. More than likely he did.
But what he really wanted was on that field, and if he
left his seat, he could have missed his chance.
Have you been distracted by the world? Did you
leave your seat? Are you missing what's really
important to you by being distracted by the worlds?
Try a little FOCUS,
Forget the noise of the world. Put your attention
where it's important to you, not where the media
wants to direct it. You don't need to be ignorant of
the world around you, but you can decide to stay in
the shallow end.
Organize your mind to distinguish between what's
important and what's urgent. Urgent things are loud
and may vie for your attention (like the concessions,
or the kids club to the little boy above). Important,
however is what you really want in spite of those
other things. A trip to the gift shop may be appealing
now, but if it takes away from your real goal, it will
only disappoint in the long run.
Commit to a plan. A continuous change of focus is a
recipe for ending up with nothing. If you start out
baking a cake, then switch to grilled chicken, then
move over to pasta, you'll get to the dinner party with
a half cooked meal that nobody will enjoy. If your
life is bouncing from one thing to another, you'll
become a master of none. As the little boy knew, he
had to commit to staying in that seat to increase his
chances of getting something he knew he wanted.
Understand that there will be sacrifices to make.
You will need to say No to some things - even
probably some things that you might want at that
moment -- in order to have wheat you ultimately
want. Like the little boy above, he told his friends
"no" when they went to get food, or wander around. I
may not be no forever, but it may have to be no right
now. Tell the world NO if it doesn't fit with your
Stand up for what you want. Stick to your guns.
Everybody won't understand, and everybody
probably won't even approve. Friends may want you
to go with them on what is most important to them
(the gift shop, or the kids play area), but if it's not
what's most important to you, you'll miss your
chance at what is. Stick to what you know is right for
Success is not an accident. Just like the little boy,
your success at a goal depends on you being in your
chair when that ball comes your way. If you're not
there, if you're not ready with your glove and paying
attention, you can't possibly reap the rewards. Focus
on what you really want, and be willing to stay in
your chair to get it.
Professional Life Coach Kathy helps people who are
burned out, stressed out, and fed up to Stay In Their
Chair and get back in touch with the foundations of
their life. http://www.reallifecoach.com
you enjoyed the article. Stay tuned
for a new treat next week!
Dave Turo-Shields (email)
Veteran Psychotherapist, Trainer &
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