~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ FEELING GREAT!
Helping You To Live An Inspired Life
------------------------------------

IN THIS ISSUE:

1. Announcements - Watch Relationship Videos
2. Article: Child Mistakes And Teaching Moments
3. Inspiring Quote
4. Professional Services
5. Pass It Along

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

-------
---1---
-------

ANNOUNCEMENTS - Watch The Relationship Videos!

What is Relationship Magic? How can you use The 3 Turns in your marriage? Find out here...

http://video.google.com/videosearch?q=couples+advice

Look for the HEART - That's me!

Please be nice, I did this on a whim, while making another movie with my 8 year old son. I asked my wife for feedback on the videos. She critiqued my casual attire instead! LOL.

-------
---2---
-------

CHILDREN'S MISTAKES AND TEACHING MOMENTS

Most children love to blame someone else for their troubles and mishaps. If they do something wrong or get into trouble then their gut instincts are to put the blame on the next person that they can. Why do they do this? The answer may surprise you.

Kids make these quick sudden "blame decisions" because they have been taught that accepting self-responsibility is going to have a negative result with their parents. Take a step back when your child gets in trouble. What does he or she say? How often does he say it? Take notice.

Most often, children will say "He did it," or "It's not my fault," or "My teacher gave me a bad grade," etc. If this describes your child then you must examine your own previous attitudes. Consider how you have treated them in the past when trouble would arise.

The realization will then set in that you have punished them in the past whenever they accepted responsibility after getting in trouble. Think about it. You have taught them that when they do something wrong, and admit it, then they will still get punished. Now can you see why they are so quick to blame?

The young child who spills a glass of juice as a three-year-old, and receives a response of anger and frustration from you, now believes that he is a disappointment and interprets this anger and frustration as rejection.

No child wants to be rejected. And to avoid this "rejection" they will be very quick to put it on somebody else, especially if Mommy and Daddy are going to be mad. Your child will seek out any excuse possible to avoid that kind of reproach. Children always want to be loved.

So what would be a more positive approach to your children if they do something wrong? Let's take the above example if your young child was to drop a glass of juice on the floor. Instead of yelling at him, instead of a slap, instead of a harsh tone of voice, try a more peaceful approach.

A healthy response would be to say "That's ok Adam, we all spill juice sometimes. I know that you did not do this on purpose, now let's get this cleaned up together." Add to that a smile and a big hug and kiss. Regardless of how many times Adam has spilled something that day or that week, your response should always be the same, loving, caring, understanding.

By doing so you will avoid teaching your child to avoid responsibility out of fear of being slapped, yelled at, or criticized. These actions will also go a long way into both the development of his self-esteem and your parent-child relationship. It is a great investment in your child.

-------
---3---
-------

INSPIRATIONAL QUOTE

"My father didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it."

~~ Clarence Budington Kelland

-------
---4---
-------

PROFESSIONAL SERVICES

1) Phone Therapy
2) Life Coaching
3) Email Consultations
4) VoIP - Skype - live voice through your PC

Myself or someone on my staff is always available to speak with you about our full range of services. In fact, we can recommend exactly the right service to you based on your needs. Coaching ALWAYS starts with a no-cost, complimentary session. And, our therapy services are guaranteed! No other company in my business that I know offers this. Give us a call for more information at 317-865-1674 USA.

or visit our website:

CounselingPros

-------
---5---
-------

PASS IT ALONG

You know at least one person who is hungry for this particular article. Take a moment and pass it along - "Pay it Forward"

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Written by Dave Turo-Shields, ACSW, LCSW, CEC
President, CounselingPros.com, Kenosis Counseling, Inc.
622 W. Valley View Drive
Indianapolis, Indiana USA 46217
317-865-1674
(c) Copyright 2005 CounselingPros.com, Inc.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~