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Relationships: Choice or Chance?

When we meet the right person to love, when we're at the right place at the right time, that's chance.

When you meet someone you're attracted to, that's not a choice.  That's chance.

Being caught up in a moment (and there are a lot of couples who get together because of this) is not a choice.  That's also a chance.

The difference is what happens afterwards.
When will you take that infatuation, that crush, that mind-blowing attraction to the next level?

That's when all sanity goes back, you sit down and contemplate whether you want to make this into a concrete relationship or just a fling.

If you decide to love a person, even with his faults, that's not a chance.  That's choice.

When you choose to be with a person, no matter what,
that's choice.

Even if you know there are many people out there who are more attractive, smarter, and richer than your mate, and yet, you decide to love your mate just the same, that's choice.  

Infatuation, crushes, and attraction come to us by chance.  But true love that lasts is truly a choice.
A choice that we make.

Regarding soulmates, there's a beautiful movie quote that I believe is so true about this: "Fate brings you together, but it's still up to you to make it happen."

I believe that soulmates do exist, that there is truly
someone made for you.  But it's still up to you to make the choice if you're going to do something about it or not.

We may meet our soulmates by chance, but loving and staying with our soulmate is still a choice we have to make.

We came to the world not by finding someone perfect to love, BUT to learn how to love an imperfect person perfectly.

~Author Unknown~






Dave Turo-Shields (email)
Veteran Psychotherapist, Trainer & Life Coach

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Hello Dave,

I am not depressed since I turned my life over to my Lord, but I am shaky and tired of fighting the devil at every turn because he wants me back on his turf - DEPRESSION.  What can I do?





Hi Elizabeth,

Many have turned to a Christian belief, partly in the hope of eliminating depression from their lives.  Congratulations on taking action!

Faith is a great place to begin!  And, there are many tools of the trade when you decide to access God in this battle with depression.

Below I will point you to excellent Biblical resources to assist in your journey of faith.

One of my favorite stories of Christian's recovering from depression is the story of Dave & Jan Dravecky.  Yes, Dave was once a famous Major League Baseball player.  Here's their awesome site:

Outreach of Hope

Look on this page for "Causes & Cures for Depression" by David Antion.

Causes & Cures for Depression

And others -

Biblical Steps - Overcoming Depression

Diana Gray Ministries

Christian Depression Pages

Doug Britton Resources

All my best,

Dave Turo-Shields


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