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Taming Your Gremlins

Gremlins are a big factor in what makes life imperfect. Although there are many forces outside your influence that impact you regularly, you do have the power to eliminate Gremlins. 

When you live out your deepest values consistently, you are at your happiest. In that case, why aren't you happy all the time? These little (not so little sometimes!) bumps in the road are called "Gremlins!"

Here are some examples of how Gremlins interrupt you living a value-driven life:

I need more time at home with my family.
You cannot live without the money!

I'm not passionate about my career. I need a change.
That's too risky. You can't give up your job security!

I want to make 10 minutes for quiet time each day.
Are you kidding, you're only getting 5 hours sleep each night as it is.

I want to exercise regularly.
Yeah, you know how that went the last three times or do I need to remind you.

How many honorable goals have you set, or thought about or taken just a tiny little bit of action on? Gremlins are subtle, but very powerful in their influence. You can find them in your actions or non-actions. They can be caught in your head, tearing your confidence down with one little statement. Oftentimes others around you will tag-team right along with your Gremlins.

You may have many untapped talents or a wish for a higher quality of life in several life areas. Many folks often crave:

- more fun & recreation
- improved financial situation
- increased social life
- better health
- an enhanced love life
- personal growth
- a more fulfilling career
- to become a better parent
- a more balanced life

Do any of these sound familiar to you? Can you identify the Gremlins that hold you back? Sometimes it is quite difficult to identify Gremlins. Pulling them out into the light dis-empowers them, so they resist. In fact, Gremlins love the status quo and hate change. They try to force you to continue living in a "fully furnished rut!"

Here are two exercises that will empower you. 

First, list 5-10 goals that you've thought about or set but haven't been able to accomplish. Take some time and consider this question - "What 'held' you back?" This is a good beginning exercise to identify Gremlins.

The second exercise is to identify 5-10 successes you've experienced in your life. Times you really felt fantastic, in the flow and on top of your game. Write down what personal qualities or traits you utilized in working towards each success. 

Congratulations. Now you have a working list of feisty Gremlins which you've courageously brought out into the light. You also now have a list of your Power Assets. In setting future goals, predict how and when the Gremlin will appear. Additionally, begin asking yourself how you will use your Power Assets strategically when the Gremlin rises up to attempt to thwart your effort.

You're on your way! As a professional life coach and a veteran psychotherapist with over 16 years of experience, you could say I'm a "Gremlin Slayer." I've helped thousands just like you to identify and overcome Gremlins and to achieve happiness in their lives. 

I'm one call away from being on your success team. Your Gremlin may try to convince you that the phone handset weighs 1000 pounds. Go ahead, try to pick it up. Let's chat and see if it's the right fit for you and I to work together to beat these Gremlins. Your happiness is waiting.



Dave Turo-Shields (email)
Veteran Psychotherapist, Trainer & Life Coach

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"The soul is dyed the color of it's thoughts. Think only on those things that are in line with your principles and can bear the light of day. The content of your character is your choice. Day by day, what you do is who you become."


Coach Dave

This snippet is from a life coaching session done in person:

Coach:  So, you want to get more things done?

Client: Yes, I sit around and waste time.  I think about paying the bills, sending a letter to the insurance company, checking email, going grocery shopping but do nothing.

Coach: What does it mean to you that you are not doing these things?

Client: It means I cannot do anything.

Coach: What does that mean?

Client: I guess I keep waiting for someone to come along in my life to take care of me.

Coach: If a future partner observes these behaviors what will they think?

Client: That I'm worthless.

Coach: How will being "worthless" be appealing to a future partner?

Client: They won't want to be with me.

Coach: What would you like to do about that?

Client: I would like to get all these things done.

Coach: Which piece will you choose to do in the next 7 days?

Client: I want to buy groceries and cook more.

Coach: When will you do that?

Client: I can make a list and go grocery shopping today.

Coach: What will you gain from doing this activity?

Client: I will feel happy and more independent.

Coach: Great!  And how will your being happy and independent influence a future mate? 

Client: It will make me much more attractive to them.

Is a Life Coach What You Need?  Let's talk more about it.  Call me at 317-865-1674.  I look forward to speaking with you.

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