PLAYING TETRIS WITH TIME MANAGEMENT
There I was, running around trying to juggle umpteen items and doing only a fair job of it at best. There was my
therapy business, and I have been putting big pieces into
place to add coaching to my business along with having to
prepare a presentation for an annual convention. Then
there's family, kids' needs, marital needs... You know
what I mean.
Suddenly I thought about my wife. I began to notice how
smoothly she manages tasks in her life. It would have been really easy to miss because she really does make it look
effortless, but when you add up the sheer number of things she does... WHOA! Absolutely
So, about two weeks ago I asked her if she would teach me how she juggles so much so well. She asked for a few days
to think about it. She said, "Honestly, I just do it, so
I'll have to think more about how it is that I do all I do."
Here is what she came up with.
Her first comments came a few hours later. She said, "Do
you remember my favorite game, Tetris? Well, I work with
time like I play the game Tetris." Pieces are always
falling, it never stops. Sometimes you get an indication
of what's coming, because at the right of the screen there's a picture of the next falling piece, but when the pieces
pick up speed you often have no time even to look over to see what's coming. You simply have to fit them all into
place as they are falling at a frenzied pace. "This," she said, "is how I manage
What a great analogy and then she added these jewels to
round it out for me. I'm passing them along to you.
They've already made a difference in how I deal with time
management. I know they will for you too.
GUIDING "TETRIS" TIME MANAGEMENT PRINCIPLES
THINK SMALL! Fit small activities into small bits of
Make that quick phone call
Start a load of laundry
Sort through the mail
Unload the dishwasher
Answer a quick email
Mow part of the yard
. . . the list is endless
Remember that few things these days have a true deadline
- mostly, they are things we just want to do or accomplish
Do not start big or long projects unless time is blocked
Guard your time & learn how to say "NO" when big or long projects near a deadline
Make a "crunch time" list
Say, "I'm sorry I can't do that, I promised myself
I'd get this done"
Enlist the help of friends/spouse to guard your time
Prep your children in advance
Close a door, and display a "Do not disturb" sign
Plan breaks & connect with the family - knowing that you will spend time with them in 2 or 4 hours, they won't feel neglected and won't interrupt as much
Mentally adopt the belief that there will always be
things to do and get done - the tasks will never be gone!
If you die today, someone else will do what is
If you die today, some stuff won't get done because it wasn't important to anyone but you!
Dave Turo-Shields (email)
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