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PLAYING TETRIS WITH TIME MANAGEMENT



There I was, running around trying to juggle umpteen items and doing only a fair job of it at best. There was my
therapy business, and I have been putting big pieces into
place to add coaching to my business along with having to
prepare a presentation for an annual convention. Then
there's family, kids' needs, marital needs... You know
what I mean.

Suddenly I thought about my wife. I began to notice how
smoothly she manages tasks in her life. It would have been really easy to miss because she really does make it look effortless, but when you add up the sheer number of things she does... WHOA! Absolutely amazing!

So, about two weeks ago I asked her if she would teach me how she juggles so much so well. She asked for a few days to think about it. She said, "Honestly, I just do it, so
I'll have to think more about how it is that I do all I do."
Here is what she came up with.

Her first comments came a few hours later. She said, "Do
you remember my favorite game, Tetris? Well, I work with
time like I play the game Tetris." Pieces are always
falling, it never stops. Sometimes you get an indication
of what's coming, because at the right of the screen there's a picture of the next falling piece, but when the pieces pick up speed you often have no time even to look over to see what's coming. You simply have to fit them all into place as they are falling at a frenzied pace. "This," she said, "is how I manage time."

What a great analogy and then she added these jewels to
round it out for me. I'm passing them along to you.
They've already made a difference in how I deal with time
management. I know they will for you too.



GUIDING "TETRIS" TIME MANAGEMENT PRINCIPLES

  1. Expect interruptions!

  2. Tolerate interruptions!

  3. THINK SMALL! Fit small activities into small bits of time

    1. Make that quick phone call

    2. Start a load of laundry

    3. Sort through the mail

    4. Unload the dishwasher

    5. Answer a quick email

    6. Mow part of the yard
       . . . the list is endless

  4. Remember that few things these days have a true deadline - mostly, they are things we just want to do or accomplish

  5. Do not start big or long projects unless time is blocked off

  6. Guard your time & learn how to say "NO" when big or long projects near a deadline

    1. Make a "crunch time" list

    2. Say, "I'm sorry I can't do that, I promised myself I'd get this done"

    3. Enlist the help of friends/spouse to guard your time

    4. Prep your children in advance

    5. Close a door, and display a "Do not disturb" sign

    6. Plan breaks & connect with the family - knowing that you will spend time with them in 2 or 4 hours, they won't feel neglected and won't interrupt as much

  7. Mentally adopt the belief that there will always be
    things to do and get done - the tasks will never be gone!

    1. If you die today, someone else will do what is necessary!

    2. If you die today, some stuff won't get done because it wasn't important to anyone but you!






Sincerely,


Dave Turo-Shields (email)
Veteran Psychotherapist, Trainer & Life Coach

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"Do people really recover from depression?  I've been on several medications and none of them worked.  What do you try next?

Thanks,

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DAVE'S RESPONSE:

Thanks for writing.  YES, people recover from depression all the time.  I don't say that to make you or anyone else feel poorly.

The sad truth is that there may be a need to try many solutions until you find the perfect one for you.  You are unique in so many ways including personality, physical makeup, dietary needs etc.

Keep in mind that the very latest news on antidepressants is not good, especially if the medicine does work for you.  Research has shown that once the medication is stopped, there's a more than 60% relapse rate back into depression.

If you feel like you really need antidepressants, and some of you do indeed, it's important to stay the course until you find one that works.

Here's my take on why relapse rates are so high.  Folks aren't tag-teaming between medicine and therapy .  It's very important to add psychotherapy support to the mix.  Long-term recovery rates jump from around 40% to near 90% when you use antidepressants and therapy together.

Here's how therapy helps.  You will learn life skills so that you don't become solely dependent on just the benefits an antidepressant can offer.  When your mood stabilizes through the use of medication, your ability to learn new living skills to regulate some of the negative emotions goes up as well.

The extra benefit of working with a therapist and a psychiatrist is they can assist you in developing a strategic plan for terminating  your antidepressant use in the safest manner possible, while creating a safety net of symptoms to be on the watch for.

In wrapping up, let's not forget the obvious... what if you're not struggling with depression or just depression?  Is there an addiction?  A medical problem?  Is there an under riding anxiety problem?

 

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